The Matters w/ Matt: No Sex For You

Every Wednesday: I never fail to be disgusted with advice columns. I will pat myself on the back this week for being on schedule. As always, I am in awe when it comes to awful examples like Ask Amy and Dear Abby. The columnists seem to get rewarded for giving you bad advice. I think that people get terrible advice from them. I don’t blame anyone that calls advice column responses garbage. I use my postings to correct these responses and help society by being an utmost asshole, (as always, a hat tip to Aaron Clarey at Asshole Consulting).

Consider this piece from Dear Prudence’s column (courtesy of Slate ) from October 10, 2020:

(Dear Matt):,

When first I met my husband, I was really excited to find someone else who liked to have sex at least 10 times a week. I try to keep things interesting, but lately he’s been watching porn and ignoring me. We are both very passive-aggressive, and I feel like he is withholding sex to get back at me instead of talking about something that’s bothering him. It was hard for me, but I brought it up directly, and he was very put off by me addressing the issue directly. Our sex life has become both of us loudly proclaiming we will masturbate and going into different rooms. I know sex is very important for both of us, and we both have a history of cheating, and I am worried. What should I do?


Dear Passive Aggressive:

He doesn’t want to tell you something that will hurt your feelings. But I will. It is something you have done or not done. I know that it is impossible to think that you have doen something wrong.

Think back before things got bad. Were you both in better health? Did you have better skin? Did you have time that you don’t now?

He is connecting stress (or discomfort) with having sex with you. He is self medicating with porn. It doesn’t take any work and it comes with less issues to deal with.

You next move is to set up a meeting and ask him “what did I do or didn’t do?”. Ask him what you both can do to get out of this predicament.


I don’t imagine that I will have a shortage of emails to answer. I would love to start doing this for anyone that sends me an email. If this is you; email us at

If you hate advice columns; I don’t blame you. If it isn’t soft people giving advice; it is someone trying to justify acting like an insensitive asshole. Till next week.

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4 Responses to The Matters w/ Matt: No Sex For You

  1. Jack says:

    She is not honest enough to give a good assessment. What did she bring up that is offense to him? Maybe her affair? Or maybe she is comparing him to the other Chads? If so, then his reaction makes perfect sense. What is she worried about? Maybe that he can’t forgive her? Maybe that she has no way to get past the guilt and shame? There’s something else she doesn’t want to admit.

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  2. Gunner Q says:

    “There’s something else she doesn’t want to admit.”

    That’s generally how I feel when women ask men for “he’s not interested” advice. Either he has a medical issue that she isn’t mentioning, or (the smart money says) he has a spousal issue that she isn’t mentioning. Because healthy men don’t naturally prefer porn to wifey.

    Although I did notice “we both have a history of cheating”. Men handle that much worse than women do.


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