Some Wednesdays: I never fail to be disgusted with advice columns. I am unsure why they still get paid to do what they do. As always, I am in awe when it comes to awful examples like Dear Abby and Ask Amy. The columnists seem to get rewarded for giving you bad advice. I think that people get terrible advice from them. I don’t blame anyone that calls advice column responses garbage. I use my postings to correct these responses and help society by being an utmost asshole, (as always, a hat tip to Aaron Clarey at Asshole Consulting).
Consider this piece from Carolyn Hax’s column (courtesy of washingtonpost.com) from January 19, 2021:
As if 2020 weren’t lousy enough, my beloved dog unexpectedly died and I have been beyond miserable. My sister knows this and calls every week to ask if I am feeling better. She loves me, she means well, but her calls are upsetting.
If I said, “I love to talk with you and thanks for your concern, asking about my feelings every week isn’t making things better, it’s just upsetting me more so please stop asking how I’m doing,” it would hurt her feelings. Any suggestions?
You may hurt her feelings but it is better that you set a boundary. It sounds like you haven’t made this known.
You need to tell her that you want to move on and it will be on your time. The fear of what she thinks is common but it is not something you should adopt.
My suggestion would be that you tell her exactly what you typed. Yes, it isn’t too soft and it might sting, but it rips the bandage off as soon as possible.
This is something that many of us should start doing as soon as we do this, we can grow.
I don’t imagine that I will have a shortage of emails to answer. I would love to start doing this for anyone that sends me an email. If this is you; email us at email@example.com
If you hate advice columns; I don’t blame you. If it isn’t soft people giving advice; it is someone trying to justify acting like an insensitive asshole. Till next week.