The Matters W/ Matt: The Father, The Son, and Mind Your Business

Every Wednesday: I never fail to be disgusted with advice columns. I am unsure why they still get paid to do what they do. As always, I am in awe when it comes to awful examples like Dear Prudence and Ask Amy. The columnists seem to get rewarded for giving you bad advice. I think that people get terrible advice from them. I don’t blame anyone that calls advice column responses garbage. I use my postings to correct these responses and help society by being an utmost asshole, (as always, a hat tip to Aaron Clarey at Asshole Consulting).

Consider this piece from the Dear Abby column (courtesy of August 11, 2021:

(Dear Matters)

My son and his wife have been living with us for two and a half years so they can save for a house. Recently, my best friend told me that a mutual acquaintance spotted a picture of my son and his wife on a swinger website. At first I discounted it. Then I started noticing they were going out every Friday and Saturday night. My daughter-in-law was usually dressed provocatively, and they wouldn’t get home until around 5 or 5:30 a.m. My husband and I are both Christians. Neither of us feel comfortable about the situation. What do you recommend we do? — INCRED


Dear Incred:

If I had to hand out a warning to parents, it would be that your children might grow up to be adults. The same kind of adults that make decisions, make mistakes, and enjoy everything in-between. Your predicament might not be what you think it is.

But I will cut through my usual crap and show you the options that you refuse to look at:

  • Follow your righteous indignation that has been appointed to you by your religion and confront them. You may only embarrass them and alienate yourselves. But you may also end up with no connection what so ever with them in the long run. In the event that you had misread the situation, you may just embarrass them and show how bad you feel that you need to jump to conclusions.
  • Be as passive aggressive as possible, passing along little tidbits of concern as you communicate with them in the future. Don’t let on that you have an ill-informed set of concerns. Order them religious marriage books or send them suggestions about podcasts that won’t steer them straight. Rinse, repeat, whatever.
  • Let them be self-responsible and self accountable people with their own tastes, needs. Contrary to what many of the religious faithful I have grown up around, it isn’t always your concern. They have to be able to navigate the treacherous waters of life. These people are adults, often with a different challenge that your generation might have seen. Then again, they might have plenty of good reasons to dress up and stay out late.

I wanted to tell you that one of the most concerning things that you said was the following sentence:

“My best friend told me that a mutual acquaintance spotted a picture of my son and his wife on a swinger website”.

Your best friend is a gossiper at best, getting jollies being a busybody.

This is second hand information at best. Once again, you are jumping to conclusions and getting a rise out of something that you do not have enough context of. If there weren’t names attached, how are you sure? The acquaintance is that reliable?

And what kind of random asshole, supposedly connected to Christians, passively trolls swinger websites?

When you look at yourself first, you may find the best avenue to deal with a non-problem. But you may also find where you can start working on what is wrong in your own lives.


I don’t imagine that I will have a shortage of emails to answer. I would love to start doing this for anyone that sends me an email. If this is you; email us at

If you hate advice columns; I don’t blame you. If it isn’t soft people giving advice; it is someone trying to justify acting like an insensitive asshole. Till next week.

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4 Responses to The Matters W/ Matt: The Father, The Son, and Mind Your Business

  1. Awesomeness! I needed this today, thank ‘King You’. 😉

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Also, I meant to ‘like’ the post, not My own comment but I can’t remove it! (I swear I’m not a narcissist, really).


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