A smart man once told me that you often have to let certain friends go, often after you have gotten further down life’s tough road.
I had two people that fit this description. Ironically so, the most set up person chose to wander away and the more spirited one seemed to surprise me.
I wasn’t sure how to share this bizarre turn of events.
(a) I Don’t Have Friends But Don’t Want Anyone As A Friend
I don’t remember what post I had made that covered this one person that was previously in my life. He had invited me to his wedding and I had a polite relationship with his fiancee’/wife. I felt like I got along with him okay. I attempted to be the friend that he often talked about. (Considering he lives less than a mile from me). He would act squirrely when he saw me at the unit at work. He had mentioned that I lived not far from him but he abruptly cut off a conversation when I went to see him. He sidestepped a comment about my bring over cuts of meat, (we had discussed about before). I felt like I wasn’t getting anything out of it or giving him anything. I let it go. He is doing well. He left our old workplace and started his own business. I still pray for him but I leave him well enough alone.
(b) Tried and True. Generous and Faithful. But Life Throws Us Curveballs.
We have known each other for years. Experienced many life events. Life has beat the shit out of him. Ex-fiancée dipped after an ugly fight. A DUI and bad experience with people he hung out with pushed hi to be a shut in. He moves, starts new job, but becomes a bit of a shut in (or one of the youngest curmudgeon like characters). I wasn’t sure what I was getting out of it. I felt like he was starting to hate the world. He seemed to create the enemy he was always looking for. I starting seeing less, getting less involved. But this last time I saw him, something huge changed. He is less angry. He doesn’t want to disagree with others more often. I feel like he might be trying to be the type of human being that we always wanted to be. It seems like we both are looking at Life 3.0.
You cant win them all but you have to celebrate when one soldier in your volunteer army comes back.
I don’t feel abandoned but I do worry about bleeding off the most organic people I have had in my life.